Grief and anxiety
Everyone reacts differently when something difficult happens. Some want to talk, others need more time to themselves. Sometimes the reaction comes much later.
A person in crisis may behave in a way that may seem strange to those around them. The person may also hide their feelings and act as normal.
To think about:
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Show that you care about the person. Ask how things are and don't be afraid to interrupt.
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Listen and try to refrain from giving advice. You don't have to have a solution to the situation.
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You can talk about everyday things or just be quiet, if the person prefers.
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You can suggest that you do something together. Maybe you can help with something practical like cooking, cleaning or going shopping.
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Make contact yourself. Preferably several times, even if you have been rejected before. Give concrete suggestions on when you can socialise.
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You can ask if the person needs help seeking care or counselling.
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As a carer, you may sometimes need support yourself in order to help someone else. There are carers' associations to turn to. You can also contact your health centre.
Offer help and support
It can be difficult to deal with everyday things when going through a crisis or grief. And for those who feel that everything is in chaos, it can be difficult to answer the question of what they need help with. It can be helpful to give concrete suggestions when you offer help. ‘I'm going for a walk, would you like to come along?’ or ‘I see you're having trouble paying all your bills, would you like me to help you this afternoon?’
If you are worried about someone
Sometimes it takes a long time to feel better. A crisis or grief can also develop into depression or a lasting trauma. If you are worried about someone close to you harming themselves, or if you feel that they need more help than you and others around you can provide, it may be wise to contact the health service.
Sources:
1177: Vårdguiden - Advice if you feel bad after experiencing something frightening
Red Cross: How to support others